2015 Review : Jan - May

I took this pic at the start of the new year.

Here we are then, another year over with ! I was going to write a big piece on what I've done in the last year but since writing this blog most of what I've done is here already. So instead what I've decided to do is trawl through my posts and pick one from each month that has best represented that point in my life. Sit back and reminisce at the last 12 months with me.

Warning before we start. In the last year my opinions have changed as I've spent more time talking to trans folk and educating myself. None of us are 100% right so although I don't regret anything I've posted here some of my thoughts may have changed. With that in mind let's begin


JANUARY
At the start of 2015 I made the decision to explore who I was in more detail. Starting with a discussion on my gender and where I fit in. But the post that I remember most from is this....

http://www.transpottingtalk.blogspot.co.uk/2015/01/a-whole-lotta-woman.html

A year on I still have no idea what they meant by 'being more fem', nor do I get why that's important. Looking back I can see how I began to criticise how people perceive the community.

FEBRUARY
February was special as it was a whole year since I listened to the incredible Against Me! album Transgender Dysphoria Blues for the first time. That album really spoke to me and made me think about my own identity. However a year on I still had problems trying to work out who I was....

http://www.transpottingtalk.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/leading-double-life.html

P.S If you haven't looked at my friends book blog then do so. She is such an amazing person and I can't imagine where I'd be without her.

Sorry Leah :P

MARCH
March was really big when it came to the growth of my blog. I'd been toying with the idea for a while of starting my own vlog & in this month I took the plunge. Vlogging is kind of the center of everything I do now and I've seen my page grow tenfold since then. For me however March was all about this....

http://www.transpottingtalk.blogspot.co.uk/2015/03/termsandconditionsapply.html

This came on the back of abuse my friend had for using the term woman without 'trans' prefacing that. While I could have worded myself a little better (I had the writing ability of a 5 year old) I still agree that people have the right to call themselves what makes them most comfortable.

APRIL
Oh April ! Where I took another dig at the term 'passing' and started using Twitter to make friends with more trans folk. Instead of something more serious though for April, the thing I remember most was my Q&A.....

http://www.transpottingtalk.blogspot.co.uk/2015/04/transpotting-q-session.html

I'd love to do one of these again in the new year. Perhaps focused on a specific topic or another general AMA. April was also the month where I ditched the hair and went for something a little different.

MAY
The month I reviewed the excellent Mad Max : Fury Road, justified why I take so many pictures and where I opened up in two very special vlogs. The one was for International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, the one I want to post here though was something real serious....

http://www.transpottingtalk.blogspot.co.uk/2015/05/vlog-bullying-bandits-and-bad-times.html

This one was really hard for me to put out there. On the one hand I didn't want to land people in crap for stuff that may have happened a long time ago, then again why should people get away with being terrible individuals. In hindsight I'm glad I posted this piece as it has helped me in some ways forgive those people for their actions. Don't get me wrong I'll never speak to them again, but I don't hate them anymore which is I guess a small victory.

So that's January to May of 2015. Check back in a few days for June to October !

End of May Selfie

Representation

If you follow me on Twitter you may remember a few months back I was interested in talking a little more about the representation of trans people in the media. In both fiction and factual programming, in television & film and even down to news I was interested to look at how we are portrayed in these formats. Well I've tried my best to put a good face on things but really I'm not feeling totally positive. Don't get me wrong there are some programs out there that aren't bad, but time and time again I see the same issues crop up. So with that in mind I'm going to write a few pointers on how we can perhaps make things a little better.

1) Language

Look, we get it. Some people find the idea of someone 'switching genders' fascinating. Call it voyeurism or fascination it don't matter, but this trend of using what I consider harmful permeates throughout. Do me a favour, read an article on a trans person or watch a factual program and see how long before one of these two lines appear.

A) She was born a boy and is now living as a woman

or

B) (Insert dead name here) now called (Insert actual name here)

Because from my recent experiences its far more common than I initially imagined. Sometimes if you're lucky you will get a double whammy and find them both within the same article. Can we like, I don't know maybe stop doing this now? 'Switching Genders' doesn't work like this. For most of us we have had to live in the gender we were not comfortable with for years. We haven't 'switched', we have aligned. Perhaps we can come up with a better term for it. For example just not ever explaining it again. Nobody needs this type of explanation. And as for the name thing, yeah please can we stop doing the dead naming thing. It doesn't benefit anyone, the trans person or the reader. It makes it sound so temporary or frivolous. We already face persecution under the false belief that we do all this for aesthetic or selfish reasons. Dead naming, even in this context is not helpful.

2) The Picture Parade

You have all seen this one at some point I'm sure. It usually happens quite early on in a program. This is where the creator makes a generation game style carousel of childhood images. This one is more of a creative complain than a perception one. This, alongside sequences of trying on makeup and glamming up feel incredibly outdated and says nothing. We should all by now be used to this sort of imagery and it's about time we put it to bed.

3) Facts Facts Facts !

I love a good story about people being people. We have this tool at our disposal that, when used correctly can really tell a person's story. But all too often we miss out on some of the important facts when it comes to transitioning and trans issues in general. As you should all be aware by now I'm not currently going through any of the million hoops you have to get through to transition. And that's mostly because the whole process seems so dense and confusing I have no idea where to begin. This is where film and TV can come in. I and many others I'm sure would love to see a focus placed on the process of going from where I am now to transitioning. Who do we speak to? Where do we start? What are the options? It's a scary and confusing road which I believe can put many people off, myself included. That doesn't mean it's stopping people from starting the process, but to seek the right advice early on and perhaps not prolong things further than they need. There's also far too little information on what medication does and does not do. We hear all the time from those who are not versed in this stuff say "When are you having the Op?" and similar things. That's only because the information is still for many not as accessible to either access or to parse. Now I'm not saying we turn people's lives into a clinical medical thing, turning what is a rich and deep subject into nothing more than 'You can do this, this and this' however I feel there could be a balance. I'm sure there are programs which do offer some of this information but I'm still looking for one which feels truly beneficial.

There's a few things I feel could be handled a little better within the industry that I love so much. This is by no means a comprehensive list, nor is it particularly academic. If you want to look even further into this subject, perhaps at a deeper level then I highly recommend you try Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. She wrote an entire section on this sort of subject which is well worth reading.

It's homework time now folks. What do you think companies/production groups need to do in order to further improve our perception within film, TV & the press? Is it time we have a full overhaul of how we are represented? Or are we getting there a bit at a time? Let's share some information and cite some examples maybe. I'm also aware that knocking something down isn't beneficial if I don't try to build things back up. So I'll create a follow up shortly citing my own examples and perhaps offering some more constructive feedback. 

Charlie xx